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Tired of the whiners, complainers, gripers and groaners in your workplace? Negative employees are an all-too-common anchor around the neck of too many work teams.

Some studies suggest that about 70% of all conflicts in the workplace are based not on what people are saying, but how they say things. Moreover, it is estimated that in the typical workplace there are ten negative (“squawking seagull language”) comments to every one positive comment.

And it gets worse! Negative comments are thought to have five times the power of every positive comment – their impact is felt even more potently.

After a decade of research on high and low performing teams, Marcial Losada found that 2.9013 is the ratio of positive to negative emotions necessary to make a corporate team successful.  (Now that’s a rather specific number…you’re probably safe to round it off to three!)  This 3:1 ratio of positive to negative comments is known as the “Losada line.” And, ideally, Losada’s research found, if your workplace can boost the ratio to 6:1, the likelihood of greater team successes will follow, and you’ll have a far better chance of creating a truly inspiring workplace culture.

Of course, it’s not necessarily a simple shift to make. Negative energy begets more negative energy.  And don’t discount the notion that it’s fun to gripe! We all do it, and there are times when there’s nothing more fun than participating in a good mutual “rant-in” over a steaming cup of coffee.

So what can you do?

Start simply by raising awareness. Remind people of the power of the language they use in the workplace and to be aware of how they are coming across, including their body language, facial expressions, and overall energy level. Remind people that how they say things matters—a lot! <

A giant mascot, fun signs, and reminder messages throughout your office can help people think twice before they speak and encourage them to be aware of how they might be perceived.

To help your team become more conscious of its attitudes and language, try distributing some handheld counters, the kind museum attendants use to measure the number of people attending an exhibit. Then have everyone tally up the number of negative comments they either speak themselves or hear over the course of a week. Now unless you also tally the positives you won’t have a sense of the ratio, but at least you’ll raise awareness of the language being used on your team.

You also can try some other tricks, at least until you and your team are more aware of the language.  Snapping an elastic band on your wrist every time you say something negative, or having people pay a quarter into the social fund each time they use a “seagull comment,” are a little gimmicky, but they can be fun, help raise awareness and, at least at the start, help you raise loads of money!

Finally, and perhaps most importantly, you also need to consider that the seagulls might just have something important to say, they just don’t know how to express it in a positive way.

Open and honest communication, including direct feedback and honest criticism, is a hallmark characteristic of any successful organization. After all, not every idea is a great idea! As draining as non-constructive negative energy is on a workplace, there’s also the danger of falling into “group think” mode, where teams that are too focused on putting on a warm and fuzzy happy face to avoid conflict at all costs end up ignoring the proverbial elephant in the room, wasting time and expending energy on truly bad, even dangerous ideas. When not all the voices get heard on a team, for fear of coming across as a seagull or fear of retaliation, then mistakes, sometimes critical ones, can happen and the best ideas don’t necessarily win the day.

Great workplaces create an environment where all ideas are open to inquiry and honest debate. 

Keep in mind, the reason employees sometimes resort to seagull behaviour is because they haven’t been given all of the information, they feel excluded, or they feel like they haven’t  been heard and given a proper voice at the table. To build a great workplace culture, you need to differentiate between honest, open and constructive debate and criticism vs. draining, energy-sucking, destructive language.

And it’s not enough to simply tell people to, “Quit being seagulls!”

One of the keys to great communication success is to train, mentor and coach team members on how to give constructive criticism and express concerns in a more positive manner. You must show people how to move from destructive communication to constructive communication. From being a seagull, to well, becoming a dove. From complaining to explaining.

Think about the simple mindset shift when moving from a “complaining mode” to “explaining mode.” Explaining a position, explaining a perspective, explaining a concern suggests a more neutral, positive tone that encourages a dialogue, as opposed to a complaining mindset that conjures up the image of a drive-by rant.

Here’s the difference between a complaining mode and an explaining mode:

Complainers complain to anyone with a pulse; explainers complain only to people with their finger on the pulse (people who can actually do something about the issue!).

Complainers complain in anger; explainers explain once they are calm.

Complainers present a monologue; explainers create an open dialogue.

Complainers assume bad intent; explainers assume good intent behind a decision or idea.  (Imagine how much less stress and negative energy your workplace would have if everyone assumed that people are coming from the best of intentions, regardless of how passionately people may disagree with their position.)

Complainers finger-point; explainers turn the finger inward and accept responsibility for their own perceptions, attitudes and behaviours.

Complainers focus on subjective attitudes and labelling (“Bob’s such a jerk!”);  explainers discuss their own perceptions and feelings and focus on observable, objective behaviours (“When Bob slams the door I feel like…”).

Complainers only talk about the negatives and what’s NOT working; explainers include the positives and what IS working.

Complainers make it all about them and how it impacts their situation; explainers connect their concerns to a broader context and the big picture (“I understand the need for us to improve our customer service…”).

Complainers take it personally, as though every decision is a personal attack on them; explainers understand that it’s not personal, even though it effects them at a personal level.

Complainers “blame-storm” by focusing on who’s to blame; explainers brainstorm – they are solu
tion-focused, they bring alternative solutions to the table, they offer to help find a solution.

Moving from a complaining to explaining culture won’t happen overnight. It requires a collective shift in attitudes and modelled leadership from the top, reflected in both words and actions.

Source: Michael Kerr, Writer.  

الأشخاص السلبيون يحاصرونك في مكان عملك؟

هل سئمت من الشاكين والمتذمرين الذين يحاصرون مكان عملك؟

لا تقلق فهذا أمر شائع. الموظفون السلبيون موجودون في كل مكان وهم دائماً حِمل ثقيل على عاتق فريق العمل.

لقد أثبتت مجموعة من الدراسات أن حوالي 70٪ من جميع النزاعات في مكان العمل لا تعتمد على ما يقوله الناس بل على الطريقة التي يتحدثون بها؛ لذلك يجب أن ندرك جيداً أن قوة التعليق السلبي تفوق قوة التعليق الإيجابي بحوالي 5 مرات أكثر.

بعد سنوات من الأبحاث التي أجريت على فِرق العمل ذات الأداء العالي والمنخفض وجدت مارشيال لوسادا أنه إذا تم رفع معدل التعليقات الإيجابية بنسبة 6:1 مقابل التعليقات السلبية في مكان العمل سوف يتحسن أداء الفريق وسوف يكون جو العمل أكثر راحة وإلهاماً فالطاقة السلبية تولد المزيد من السلبية.

ما الحل إذاً ؟

هناك حلول متعددة ومتنوعة وهذه بعض منها:

-يجب الاهتمام بزيادة وعي الناس وتذكيرهم بمدى تأثير اللغة التي يستخدمونها في مكان عملهم ويشمل ذلك لغة الجسد وتعابير الوجه ودرجة النشاط.

-تذكير الناس دائماً بأن الطريقة التي يقولون بها الأشياء هي التي تحدث فارقاً.

-وضع تميمة عملاقة أو بعض الرموز المضحكة أو رسائل تذكير في المكتب تحث الناس على ضرورة التفكير جيداً قبل التحدث.

– توزيع بعض العدادات اليدوية، كتلك التي تستخدم في المتاحف لمعرفة عدد الزوار على فريق العمل وحثهم على حساب عدد التعليقات السلبية التي تفوهوا بها أو سمعوها خلال أسبوع. الهدف من ذلك هو التركيز على اللغة المستخدمة في الحديث.

-هناك أيضاً بعض الخدع التي يمكن استخدامها مع فريق العمل والتي تساعد أكثر على التركيز على اللغة المستخدمة أثناء الحديث مثل دفع مبلغ للصندوق الاجتماعي في كل مرة يعلق الشخص فيها بطريقة سلبية، وهي طريقة طريفة وفاعلة في الوقت نفسه لأنها ستجعل كل فرد من أفراد الفريق أكثر وعياً بكل حرف يتفوه به حتى لا يخسر أمواله.

-هناك أشخاص طيبون لكنهم لا يستطيعون التعبير عن مشاعرهم بشكل إيجابي وهذا الموقف يتطلب مناقشة صريحة من القلب لمعرفة كيفية تحويل مسار المناقشة.

-يجب أن نعلم أن السلوك السلبي الذي يتبعه بعض الموظفين في العمل له عدة أسباب مثل: شعورهم بعدم الحصول على المعلومات الكافية أو شعورهم بالاستبعاد أو التجاهل؛ لذا من المهم أن تكون بيئة العمل إيجابية و يتم إعطاء التوجيهات أو الملاحظات بطريقة لطيفة مع الابتعاد تماماً عن التعليقات الهدامة التي تضر أكثر مما تفيد.

الكاتب مايكل كير