We all face those days, when everything around us just doesn't seem right. More often than not, we end up sharing these problems with those around, and suddenly the room turns into a concert of complaints. By the end of the conversation we all end up exhausted but very little changes.
You may have had this experience too - You’re enjoying your work or life and having a good day. Then you talk to someone and all they can do is complain about someone or something and suddenly you can’t think straight anymore. Your mood sinks and your energy is gone.
Complaining more often than not leaves us aggravated, angry and feeling terrible, but we do it anyway.
Complaining damages the brain, literally.
According to research a half hour of complaining every day physically damages a person’s brain. Negativity peels back neurons in the hippocampus—the part of the brain used for problem solving and cognitive function.
But that’s not only why complaining is bad, here are more pointers:
When you complain... you get a lot more to complain about! – The Snowball Effect
What we bring to our attention becomes our reality. It is like focusing on white cars. Pretty soon, you’ll see white cars all over the place
Complaining is contagious
It spreads, and it brings others around you down.
It becomes a habit
The more you complain, the easier it gets. In the end, everything is bad, every situation is a problem, every co-worker is a jerk and nothing is good. The more you focus on the negative, the harder it gets to switch into a positive mindset.
You get what you focus on
In other words, what you already believe influences your perception of everything around you. That’s why constant complaining makes you see everything in a negative light.
It makes us hopeless
Not only does constant complaining make you see things as worse than they really are, but because you’re constantly hearing stories of how bad things are, it also destroys all hope that things can get better.
Distance Yourself from complainers
Complaining sometimes is not avoidable, especially if you are in class, where everyone is in the mood to complain about school work, professors etc. So the next time you hear a group complain about something put on your headphones and distance yourself.
Ask the complainer to fix the problem
This mostly explains itself; more often than not people look at things from one perspective only, and need reminding that some problems cannot be solved.
Rejoice about blessings
We have so much to rejoice about, so why should we complain to each other about things that aren't really in our control. Instead of complaining about problems, lets rejoice about our blessings
When someone starts to complain about a certain problem that seems out of their control, show your compassion with the person, and more often than not the person will start pointing out the positives to you instead of complaining.